By SheelaR

I’ve been watching Basketball Wives, and one of the story-lines revolve around one of the ladies dealing with her mother’s cancer and inevitable death. It’s such a hard thing to watch. Like so many others I’ve lost a loved one to cancer.  For some odd reason,  death by cancer seems more painful than others.

My eyes fill with tears every time they talk about it on Basketball Wives. I really feel her pain. It’s very difficult to watch someone you love dearly slowly slip away from you.  My grandmother slipped away from me while I was holding her hand. There were days when I use wish that I could undo that moment.  Now, I’m thankful for it.

I got to love on her and look into her eyes during those rare moments when they were open.  I felt like I could see her soul. I’m glad that I had the opportunity to watch her take that last breath.  In that moment, we shared the same air. Something that I’ll carry with me forever.

In the story-line on Basketball Wives, Tami is dealing with the issue of her mother either taking her final breath in Tami’s home or in hospice.  I know that her mom has passed but If I could have talked to Tami, I would have told her to let her mom die at home.

It is a rare moment that we get to spend that kind of time with our loved ones. I don’t wan’t to miss their lives ending because I’m I afraid of sickness and death. Death is inevitable for all of us. Unlike birth, not every baby will live, but we’ll all die.  Death by any means, doesn’t bring the same level of joy and happiness as birth, but it is a part of the circle of life.

As our loved ones make their final exit from life, we should send them away with the same love and caring they received when they were born. That is the very least that we can do for them as they leave us forever.