By SheelaR

Our primal ancestors procreated primarily for survival, a continuation of the species if you will. We’ve evolved. We still act on our primal instincts to procreate, but evolution has given us another reason, the need for love and companionship. There is only one problem with this…love complicates the process. Don’t get me wrong, I am a hopeless romantic and I believe in love. However, I know and understand that love complicates the very basic purpose of sex.

We are compelled to have sex. Willful celibacy goes against everything we were designed for. It is an unnatural act. Nature designed men to spread their seeds among as many partners as possible. Unfortunately, we live in a time where this is not only unpractical, unacceptable, but unsafe. Sex without procreation is simply recreation. We enjoy it because of hormones released in our brains when we meet, fall in love and engage in intercourse with another human being, and sometimes by ourselves. Your brain experiences a flood of adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. That is all you’re feeling, a rush of hormones. Ironically, these same hormones and the feelings that follow were designed to make sex pleasurable to simply encourage baby making. Now, instead of using sex for its main purpose, we enjoy coupling for recreational purposes.

I’m not complaining. I too enjoy this replacement reason for sex.

The types of people we choose to mate and fall in love with are often reflections of ourselves and our end purpose. Some of us have instincts that are more primal and we look for someone to engage us in a relationship for the purpose of marriage and children. Also, there are those who seek out mates for reasons less primal in origin, simple physical pleasure. Finally, there is a group that once passed the point of fertility. They seek simply seek companionship and love. Children are no longer a factor and the act of sex no longer has a real definable purpose.

And while love is a complication of our original blueprint, it is a beautiful thing. I believe in being in love. I believe that a normal healthy love is something we’re all looking for and when we can’t find it…we look for substitutes; people that will stork our egos and libidos. It’s not the worst thing in the world, but it is temporary and I don’t want that kind of love and nor should you.