By SheelaR

I’ve been struggling with the idea that I’m a modern woman. In comparison to my own mother, I am, but I’m not sure that I want to be. I have a career that I love and I don’t get caught in traditional things, such as cooking and cleaning, although…I do enjoy them. I like watching sports with the guys, doing outdoorsy type of things, and that whole mindset. I’m not into this whole feminist movement stuff. I’m not sure how it’s helped women, aside from a sexual revolution standpoint. In that case, it hasn’t helped us at all. Women in the workplace still make less than men and men still make the laws that govern our bodies.

These modern feminists look up to Beyoncé as their idol. Her affinity for sequined onesies and bending over on stage while shaking her bottom, is their idea of liberation. If that’s being liberated and modern, I’m behind the times. I define being a modern feminist as embracing all that is soft and beautiful as a woman, while enjoying a multitude of choices this world has made available to me as a free thinking autonomous woman; some of the choices available to men. Feminism has been relegated to the “how sexually free you are” category. I reject that, while making a point of saying…I enjoy copious amounts of sex, but not in a way that makes me too “liberated.”

As a modern woman, I totally appreciate a man who doesn’t have a problem cooking, cleaning, and doling out back and foot rubs. This old-fashioned modern woman, loves that I can seem to have it all without sacrificing all the things that make me a feminine woman, but not a feminist. I like old-fashion love and dating. I like it when a man opens the door for me and kisses me on my forehead when I need it most. As a modern woman, I enjoy the idea a making him a warm meal after a long hard day and running him a bath. As modern woman, I still want to give him babies, and breastfeed them while gazing over at him reading a newspaper.

As a modern woman, I want to be sexy in my clothes but modest in my taste. I want to walk out of my front door with a face free of makeup and still feel at my most beautiful. I want to confidently rule the boardroom while maintaining a calm, soft, and assured demeanor. I want so many things as a unwilling modern woman, so I guess that makes me an old-fashion modern feminist.