By SheelaR

This blog entry was inspired by a number of conversations I’ve had over the last few days with a number of people.

At what point after a breakup should you have a light bulb moment. After how many days, weeks, months, or years do you get to grieve the end of the relationship? I’m here to tell you…there is no right answer to this question. However, I will say this…it is okay to take your baggage into the new relationship, but it’s not okay to live out of it indefinitely, nor ask the new love to carry any parts of the old baggage. The new love is a different person…unless you have a propensity for dating the same type of people…in that case; you’ll never learn…no really, you won’t.

We all break and have our hearts broken. Pain is inevitable for us all. The end of a relationship is much like the death of a loved one, and because we’ve all experienced that, understanding the heartbreak of a failed love should come as no surprise to anyone. Sometimes the pain is so palpable; you can taste it in your mouth. Especially, when you’ve not experienced the kind of closure you think you deserve. NEWSFLASH! You may never get it and you shouldn’t wait on it. No one owes you the perfect ending.

It’s okay to admit that it hurts and that you don’t know when you’ll be okay. After all that is said…begin sorting through your baggage and get rid of the things you no longer need for the new trip. It would be advisable that you even take a trip (figurative) by yourself. Trust me when I tell you this…it’s the best thing you could ever do for yourself.

Healing is a process. Its progression depends entirely on you. Embrace the pain, because pain reminds us that we are indeed alive. Nurture your mind, body, and soul; you only have one…and it is beautiful. Especially, when a new love knocks at your door.

Goodnight, sleep peaceful and deep; don’t forget to dream!