You’re not the nicest person I know

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By SheelaR

You ever notice how some people declare, “I’m the nicest person you’ll ever meet”? Every time I hear that, I can’t help but roll my eyes a little. Seriously, it’s such a bold claim to make! Like, who gave you the authority to label yourself the nicest? Isn’t that something that should be left for others to decide? I’m all for confidence, but come on! 

I believe kindness should speak for itself. If you have to remind people how nice you are, does it really hold any weight? It’s like waving a neon flag that says, “Look at me!” instead of just being genuine and letting your actions shine. Of course, being nice is great, but there’s a difference between being nice and putting on a performance. 

Honestly, I’ve met some truly amazing people who don’t need to proclaim their kindness. They show it in their everyday actions without a grand announcement. So next time someone says they’re the nicest, I’ll just smile and let their behavior do the talking. I mean, you can be nice and still be a little bit flawed—just like the rest of us. Can we agree on that?

Lupus Talk: Universal Healthcare

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By SheelaR

It’s 3 AM, and instead of peacefully dreaming, I’m wide awake with a bad cold and lupus-related joint pain that feels like it’s throwing a party in my body. On nights like this, I find solace in my earbuds, listening to music or diving into true crime podcasts. They somehow help me drift into a slumber, even when I’m battling discomfort. It’s funny how, even when sleep eludes me, I feel better at night than I did during the day. I’ve spent the day lounging in bed, eating all three meals there – the picture of a cozy but challenging day.

Now, I know it sounds rough, and believe me, some days are definitely harder than others. But here’s the thing: I still have a lot of good days where I can live a fairly normal life. I can appreciate the little things, go out, and enjoy the world around me. I consider myself lucky, and I recognize that, compared to so many others, I have an incredible support system in terms of health care. I have fantastic health insurance and access to excellent medical care, which makes a tremendous difference.

But it really baffles me when I look around and see that so many Americans don’t have that same luxury. The conversation around universal health care is more important now than ever. It should be a right, not a privilege. We live in a country that values equality and opportunity, yet many are still fighting for access to basic health care. That just doesn’t sit right with me. 

Universal health care works, and I see why we need it. First off, imagine removing the anxiety that comes with medical bills. For those struggling to make ends meet, the mere thought of needing to visit the doctor can be overwhelming. Without universal health care, many avoid doctors’ visits altogether, opting instead to risk their health. This isn’t just about individuals; it puts a strain on the entire healthcare system. 

Another thing to consider is preventive care. With universal health care, people would have the opportunity to catch health issues before they escalate. Regular check-ups and screenings would lead to healthier populations overall, and consequently, reduced emergency room visits. 

Moreover, your health shouldn’t be dictated by your job or your income. With universal health care, everyone gets the same level of care regardless of their employment situation. It’s about leveling the playing field, ensuring everyone has access to necessary medical attention. This would also mean we could focus more on wellness, not just illness.

Plus, let’s talk about mental health. Under such a system, mental health care could be prioritized just as much as physical health. Everyone deserves access to therapists, counselors, and the support they need without worrying about draining their bank account. 

It’s also worth noting that universal health care isn’t a new concept. Many countries have had systems in place for years, and they’ve seen positive results. We’re talking about happier, healthier populations. People can focus on their careers, families, and communities without the looming shadow of healthcare costs. 

Of course, implementing universal health care isn’t without its challenges. There would be discussions on how to pay for it, how to administer it, and what that would mean for the current healthcare system. But shouldn’t it be worth at least having those discussions? Shouldn’t every person have the right to live without the fear of medical bankruptcy?

So here I am, wide awake at 3 AM, reflecting on my struggles and gratitude. Even with my bad cold and joint pain, I recognize that I am fortunate. But I also genuinely believe we can do better. We can create a system that ensures health care isn’t just for the select few but accessible to all. We deserve a system that allows everyone, no matter their background, to have the health care they need. 

Here’s to hoping for changes that can bring about a healthier future for everyone, because everyone deserves that chance.

Dear Meghan Sussex, nèe Markel Haters

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By SheelaR

Let’s talk about the ongoing conversation (or should I say hate) surrounding Meghan Sussex. It’s fascinating how some people can’t seem to handle a Black woman confidently living her life in a way that doesn’t fit their narrative of who she should be. Seriously, it’s like seeing a black woman exude luxury, softness, power, and vulnerability throws some people into a tailspin. Why is that? 

Let’s break it down. Meghan has stepped into her royal role and fully embraced her identity with grace, but for some, it’s more about her being a woman of color than any actual privilege she enjoys. It’s wild to think that her very existence challenges the status quo for some. They want her to fit into a stereotype, but she absolutely refuses. 

It’s evident that there’s an underlying frustration there. Meghan’s “soft life” — which involves self-care, advocacy, and high-profile events — looks downright aspirational to many. But instead of trying to learn from it, her detractors look for new reasons to throw shade. Maybe it’s the fact that she’s doing it all with a level of confidence and poise that they feel entitled to but haven’t been able to grasp. It’s easier to lash out than to confront the discomfort of that realization, right? 

The reality is that Meghan’s Blackness challenges a lot of folks’ preconceived notions about who deserves to occupy spaces of power, privilege, and softness. It makes them uneasy in a way that’s more than just jealousy; it’s about the fear of losing their grasp on societal norms that have been in place for a long time. When a Black woman not only steps into those spaces but dominates them, it shines a light on all the problematic expectations surrounding race, gender, and success. 

So here’s the truth: Instead of hating, maybe take a step back and do some soul-searching. What is it about Meghan that makes you so uncomfortable? It’s not just about her title or success; it’s about her challenging everything that some folks thought they understood about the world. Encouraging a celebration of her journey, her strength, and her vulnerability could actually be a step toward progress. Remember, her story isn’t just about her; it’s about all of us evolving. 

KeKe and Kids: A Family that Scams Together Stays Together 

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You know what’s worse than a scamming beggar? An entitled, belligerent scamming beggar who drags her kids into the whole mess to keep the con going. Let’s talk about KeKe and her various social media accounts, like Amoustfamous_1111, SheeshKeketv, Keepingupwith Keketv, kekeandfamilyof6, and keketv6. This woman seems to have made scamming an art form, and it’s just wild how she keeps pulling it off. 

KeKe claims to be a homeless single mother with five kids, living in hotels and desperate for support. She hops between TikTok and Facebook, spinning new stories to tug at people’s heartstrings and rake in cash from unsuspecting followers. She attempted to gain more fame by appearing on a popular YouTuber’s podcast, thinking it would give her the cash boost she desperately craves. Surprise, surprise—it didn’t work out so well for her. 

What I find truly troubling is how she utilizes her children as pawns in these schemes. It’s one thing to make questionable choices as an adult, but dragging innocent kids into this mess is a whole different level of wrong. Those little ones shouldn’t be part of her shenanigans; they deserve better than to be part of a scam.

To make matters worse, KeKe has a history of encounters with Child Protective Services. It’s alarming to think that she’s had multiple run-ins yet continues to put her children in dangerous situations. She’s even exposed them to known predators. How is she still allowed to have custody? It’s frustrating to watch this unfold, knowing that these kids are the ones truly suffering while KeKe plays the victim and keeps spinning her web of lies.

It’s high time we start calling out people like her. We cannot stand by and let this type of behavior continue unchecked. If you see her or any of her accounts, consider this a warning. Let’s hold her accountable and protect those kids who clearly aren’t being safeguarded by the system that’s supposed to be there for them. Enough is enough.

I’m still grateful – Living with a chronic illness

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about gratitude and how it really plays a role in my life with a chronic illness. It’s so easy to get caught up in the frustrations and struggles that come with managing daily health challenges, but I’ve found that focusing on the little things can make a world of difference.

You know, when you’re living with a chronic illness, big wins can sometimes feel few and far between. But those small moments? They have this incredible way of lighting up the day. I’ve learned to appreciate things I once took for granted, like the joy of a good night’s sleep or the feeling of sunshine on my face. Seriously, those moments can lift my spirits like nothing else!

Take my morning coffee ritual, for example. There are days when just getting out of bed feels like climbing a mountain. But when I finally manage to brew my perfect cup, savoring that first sip can set a the tone for the rest of the day. It’s a reminder that even on tough days, I can find pleasure in simple things.

Then there are the good days, those moments when I feel a bit more like myself. Maybe it’s a spontaneous outing with friends or even just binge-watching my favorite show without planning my next nap. Those fleeting days are like little gifts that remind me to embrace whatever joy I can find amidst the chaos of my health struggles.

Let’s not forget about the amazing people in my life. Family, friends, even a kind stranger can make a difficult day brighter. A text checking in or a quick phone call can really offer that much-needed support. I’ve learned to cherish these connections because, honestly, they can mean everything.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that living with a chronic illness isn’t all doom and gloom. There’s a kind of beauty in recognizing how precious life can be, even when it’s difficult. The little things add up, and they can help build a foundation of gratitude that keeps me grounded. I just want to take a moment to appreciate those small blessings today, whether it’s a warm cup of coffee or a smile from a loved one. Those moments remind me that life, despite its challenges, is still full of beauty.

Social Media Parenting: Crossing the Line

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By SheelaR

Parenting is such a delicate and important job; you don’t have to be a parent to know that. We’ve all been children, and if you take a moment to look at it from a child’s perspective, it can really change how you see things. Lately, as I navigate these social media streets, I’ve become increasingly aware of the delicate balance that comes with raising children and the effort it requires to get it just right.

Social media has put a spotlight on parenting like never before, making us all hyper-aware of how others are doing it. Some days, scrolling through my feed feels like watching a series of trains wreck over and over again. You see the chaos, the drama, and sometimes, even the unbelievable messages people send their kids—often for likes and shares. The lines between genuine parenting and seeking validation online are getting blurrier by the minute.

So, what are we really seeing here? Is social media just a stage for folks performing, desperately trying to capture an audience? Or are we genuinely that messed up as a society, seeking connection in the wrong places? Whatever the answer is, one thing is clear: social media is no place to raise a child. The constant oversharing leaves so many parents open to judgment and scrutiny from every corner of the internet. It’s exhausting just to think about.

Imagine being a child growing up in this environment, where every misstep, every awkward moment, is immortalized online for the world to see. It’s a far cry from the old days when families had their bumps and bruises without the glaring spotlight of social media. Kids deserve a space where they can thrive, explore, and learn from their mistakes without the fear of being blasted on someone’s timeline.

As we dive deeper into this virtual world, let’s remember the importance of intentionality in parenting. We should be fostering environments that promote growth and understanding, rather than ones that seek attention or validation. Being a parent—or just being part of a child’s life—is about caring for them, guiding them with love, and giving them the space they need to navigate their own journey. Let’s prioritize that over the fleeting applause of the online crowd.

The TikTok Ban

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The banning of TikTok in America is causing quite a stir, and let’s be real—it’s not just some small issue. We’re looking at a direct assault on the rights of 170 million Americans, many of whom rely on this platform for their voices to be heard. Among those are 7 million small business owners who use TikTok to market their products and connect with customers.

Think about it: TikTok isn’t just a platform for dancing videos and viral challenges. For so many, it’s a lifeline. Small business owners have turned this app into a game-changer. It allows them to reach audiences they otherwise wouldn’t have access to. A cool way for a local bakery to showcase their cakes or for a startup to promote a new product. You see these creative ideas that you wouldn’t find in traditional marketing, all thanks to a space where people can be authentic and real.

Banning TikTok will not only stifle those unique voices but also hurt the economy. We’re talking about livelihoods on the line here. When small businesses flourish, they create jobs, contribute to the community, and help fuel the economy. A blanket ban affects not just the business owners but also the employees, families, and communities they support.

Now, I know there are these so-called concerns about security and data privacy. These type of issues deserve attention, but we know that isn’t the real issue. If it is, let’s find a solution that protects users while allowing creativity and commerce to thrive. The focus should be on improving regulations and creating safer environments rather than cutting off an entire avenue of expression and enterprise.

The decision-makers in Washington need to remember that this isn’t just about politics; it’s about real people whose lives are impacted by these decisions. It’s about innovation, creativity, and the spirit of entrepreneurship that defines America. 

The ban on TikTok will send a chilling message to platforms everywhere: that if they don’t fit a certain mold, they might be eliminated entirely. Instead of tearing down, let’s talk about how to build a better system—one that includes and empowers everyone, from content creators to small business owners. Let’s make sure our voices are heard in this conversation because together, we can advocate for a more balanced approach that keeps our communities thriving.

The Allure of an Unbalanced Leader

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I’ve got to confess: I’m a bit of a people watcher. There’s something undeniably fascinating about observing human behavior, especially when it strays into the odd and unsettling. And let’s be real; there’s no shortage of unbalanced folks out there. My favorite type of mad – think Jim Jones or David Koresh. They’re like ticking time bombs, just waiting for the right moment to explode. It’s chilling and yet oddly intriguing.

Not too long ago, I found myself in close proximity to one such character. To put it mildly, he was a vile individual. Yet, somehow, he managed to attract a loyal following. I never could wrap my head around why anyone would admire him; he was cruel and downright mean. Yet, there were those who insisted he was a charming, “good guy.” It was bizarre, to say the least.

This guy was a well-known figure on Facebook; his antics were often discussed and laughed about. He was unrestrained, much like someone caught in the downward spiral of addiction, actively battling demons that left some of us cringing. It’s a complicated dynamic because while many people struggling with mental illness are harmless—or even noble—the truth is that this guy was the exception to that rule. He had a way of drawing people in, and once they were hooked, they seemed unable to break free.

It raises a lot of questions about what people find appealing in these unbalanced individuals. Is it the thrill of being associated with someone so extreme? Do they feel like they’re part of something bigger, even if that something is toxic? It’s almost like they’re blinded by the charisma these individuals exude, ignoring the underlying dangers. The whole situation had a weird cult-like atmosphere where rationality took a backseat, and loyalty became a twisted form of admiration.

Seeing this firsthand has made me reflect on the allure that certain personalities can wield. It’s a blend of power, drama, and a live-wire unpredictability that makes them magnetic. I guess the mystery of human behavior continues to unfold, and I’ll keep watching, trying to understand the draw of these unbalanced individuals who captivate and terrify us in equal measure. 

This Jim Jones of Facebook is no longer with us, and his absence has left the world a slightly better place. I’m not celebrating, but I haven’t lost any sleep either. He brought a lot of darkness, not only to others but also to himself. In some way, this is a gentle reminder- be kind 😊

Avoiding the Political Discourse

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By SheelaR

I’ve been pretty quiet lately when it comes to politics, and I wanted to share a bit about why. To be honest, the last election was intense—honestly traumatic in its own right. For months, it felt like every time I turned on the news or scrolled through social media, I was bombarded with the chaos, misinformation, and constant tensions that just made it hard to breathe. I needed to step back and focus on my mental health, so I decided to take a break from all of it.

Today, seeing the certification of the election hit hard. It feels like the weight of everything we’ve been through isn’t just behind us, but just keeps piling up. The political landscape has been so divisive, and all the drama seems to linger like a bad cold you just can’t shake off. I know I’m not alone in feeling overwhelmed by the constant back-and-forth and the anger that comes with it. Honestly, I just wanted to find a little peace of mind, so I’ve chosen to avoid the discussions that were stressing me out.

I completely respect everyone’s right to have their political views, and I also know that these conversations are important. But for me, navigating through all that negativity became exhausting. It’s one thing to talk about beliefs and ideals, but when it becomes a shouting match, or when it feels like friendships are being jeopardized over differing opinions, it just doesn’t sit right with me.

I crave connection and understanding, not conflict and division. So, I’ve kept my thoughts to myself for a while, opting instead to find joy in simple things—spending time with family, diving into hobbies, and just enjoying life outside the political circus.

All that said, I recognize that many of you are passionate about these issues and that’s great. I may not engage as much as before, but I support your right to speak your truth. I’m cautiously optimistic about moving forward, hoping we can eventually have more constructive, less divisive conversations. For now, I’m just going to take a breath and keep focusing on finding my balance.

Thanks for reading, everyone. Here’s to better days ahead!

Single: A woman’s perogative

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I need to get something off my chest as we roll into 2025 and beyond. Can we PLEASE normalize not asking women why they’re single? It’s like there’s this unwritten rule that being single is some kind of crisis for women, while no one seems to bat an eye at the question when it comes to men. Seriously, why is that?

You never hear people grilling guys about their relationship status, and it’s about time we start the same mindset for women. Being single isn’t a problem; it’s just a part of life! Some women are focused on their careers, exploring hobbies, or just enjoying their own company – and that’s perfectly okay.

Let’s shift the narrative a bit. Instead of viewing single life as something to be fixed, how about celebrating independence and self-discovery? It’s 2025, and we should be lifting each other up, regardless of relationship status. So next time you find yourself curious about a woman’s single life, maybe ask her about her passions or what she loves to do instead. Let’s keep it positive and supportive, folks! Cheers to embracing every chapter of our lives!